The Dream

Caution:  Parents may want to preview before allowing minors to read this post.

It was probably the second worst dream I’ve had in my life.

I’ll back up a little.  A few months ago I was watching some Christian movie trailers with my children, to see if we wanted to rent something to watch.  There was one about a teen with Down Syndrome, and her struggles with being accepted in high school.  I could barely watch the trailer, much less even think about renting the movie.  The visuals of someone being mocked like that just hit too close to home for me right now.  But it was soon forgotten in the busy evening with many energetic children. :o)

Then came the dream.  I was entering a large house or residential building where I felt instant tension.  Many sad, but “practical” parents were making a serious decision.  A decision to end the life of their young adult child, all of whom had Down Syndrome.  It was horrible.  But they were intelligent, logical people and making the best decision, they seemed to tell me.  One by one the parents led them upstairs, and to the end of their lives.  Then I noticed the siblings.  Weeping, terrified siblings who loved their brother or sister, begging for their parents to change their minds.  But it was not to be, in this dream anyway.

When I awoke, I thought “What an awful dream!  Why would I dream that?”  Then I remembered the movie trailer.  Even though it seemed to have a positive ending and promote acceptance of people with T21, it must have triggered the dream.

Later I realized that’s just how it is in real life!  “Intelligent,” practical parents making what they think is the best decision, BUT siblings who all want their brother or sister to live, and don’t care how many chromosomes they have.

That’s it.  I don’t know if God gave me the dream for a purpose or not, but…

here is a link to an online documentary/interview about abortion.  It is verbally graphic, but to make a point to help people see the truth.  (Please preview before showing it to children, though.)


To God be the glory,


Family/Isaac update:  Well, I certainly haven’t posted once a month like I originally planned – I can’t believe it’s almost May!  Just busy raising children, and it’s worth it!  My 6-year-old said the other month, “I want another baby like Isaac; I want another baby with Down Syndrome.”  Sooo sweet and precious to hear.  They all adore him, and I have to ask them to put him down sometimes so he can progress physically. :o)  We got him on the thyroid (Nature Throid, then Liothyronine, too, when that didn’t kick in the energy level alone), but after 4 months we still didn’t see much more energy.  I finally got his iron up, and use quite a few other natural things recommended for thyroid, and the energy finally came in March, after weaning him off the meds.  I had started him on the GAPS diet (gut-brain connection) in Jan., along with his brother who has learning challenges, so that may have played a part.  I’m just glad he’s energetic now and not on meds.!

In March I attended the The Family Hope Center’s “How to Help Your Child with Special Needs” 3-day course in PA (similar to the neurodevelopmental program we were already doing, only more intense).  It was excellent, and despite all my research I still learned a lot.  After implementing the new program with my boys for just a couple of weeks, I saw some big changes.  Isaac starting creeping (we’d waited 15 months for this!), going over 30 meters the second day, even though he had only once or twice even gotten on his hands and knees.  His brother had my jaw dropped when he carried correctly by himself on all of his math problems one day – a huge change for him.  Yeah, we’re making progress!  He also asked some deeper questions that showed some real social maturity gains. :o)  Isaac is pulling himself up a lot more, too, and continuing with his swim lessons and reading program.  When he’s not crawling, eating or hugging, he’s usually reading books!

So, if you know anyone with challenges, whether autism, psychological, learning, genetic, ADD/ADHD, memory, stroke, cerebal palsy, etc., you might want to pray about looking into The Family Hope Center’s program.  They do not diagnose/label, but access your child (or teach you how to) and develop a program to organize/grow the brain as much as possible.  They deal with the root causes, actually causing change, not just using techniques to compensate or get around the disability.  They teach you how to implement the program at home, and their success rate is over 90%.  Here’s the link: http://www.familyhopecenter.com/.

Also, a neurodevelopmental program would be similar, but not as much time invested, and not as much teaching for the parents (in my experience).  Here’s the link to ICAN (International Christian Association of Neurodevelopmentalists): http://www.icando.org/.  You can look for ICAN members by state, to find someone near you.  We were with Hope and a Future (http://www.hope-future.org/) for 1.5 years and were happy with their services, but wanted something more intense to see even faster progress.  But this is an excellent option, especially for children who are in school, and therefore have less time at home to work on the program.

God made the brain so amazing, and it can heal and change.  Of course, we have to work hard, but He gets the credit. :o)


Let’s pray for those mothers!

Our little guy is 1 1/2 today!

Our little guy is 1 1/2 today!

This quote from a LifeNews.com article:

“The appalling rate of babies with Down syndrome who are aborted is no secret. When parents receive a prenatal diagnosis, 9 times out of 10, they will choose to abort that child, simply because the baby has an extra chromosome. We blame things like misinformation and prenatal testing, but there’s a much more disturbing problem simmering beneath the surface: the lack of Down syndrome parents willing to speak out against it.” (emphasis mine; full article at: http://www.lifenews.com/2013/04/04/did-you-know-90-of-babies-with-down-syndrome-are-aborted/)

Now I did some research, and while that statistic is debatable, most agree that it is safe to say it is between 60 – 100% in most places.

So, for the record, life is the only right choice when it comes to people, born or unborn.  Our value is not dependent on whether we are “well” in the world’s eyes.  We don’t (or shouldn’t!) terminate people after birth if they have a handicap.  Aren’t we all handicapped in some way or another?  The Bible says:

14 But the word is very nigh unto thee, in thy mouth, and in thy heart, that thou mayest do it.

15 See, I have set before thee this day life and good, and death and evil;

16 In that I command thee this day to love the Lord thy God, to walk in his ways, and to keep his commandments and his statutes and his judgments, that thou mayest live and multiply: and the Lord thy God shall bless thee in the land whither thou goest to possess it.

19 I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live:

20 That thou mayest love the Lord thy God, and that thou mayest obey his voice, and that thou mayest cleave unto him: for he is thy life, and the length of thy days:

Deuteronomy 30:14-16, 19-20a 

But what about all those mothers who have already made their choice, terminating the lives of their babies with Trisomy 21, or babies with other challenges, or even “well” babies?  I have read some testimonies, and there is some serious grief and heartache, even among those who still believe they made the right decision, for whatever reason.

Let’s all stop and pray today for those mothers, that they would find the forgiveness offered in Christ Jesus, and comfort in their sadness and/or regret.  I know some out there have really reached out to others and made a difference in someone else’s life.  Let’s not be ashamed to tell people that when God creates life, it’s right!  We can trust Him for the outcome, and know He has a beautiful plan for all the joys AND challenges.  Let’s pray for those mothers contemplating abortion, those who are struggling with making the right choice.  Let’s also be ready to lend support, a listening ear, and services to those facing the future after making the right decision, or to those who have made the wrong one, too.

I read an article about things people wished they knew about parenting a child with Trisomy 21.  One was especially encouraging, because the woman’s daughter was now 28.  She said she wished she knew “that everything would be just FINE!”  Not perfect, but fine.  Who’s life is perfect anyway?!  One wonderful book of stories is called “Gifts,” and so many shared that they are better people for having their child, that they have learned so much (especially to slow down and enjoy the small things in life), that they couldn’t imagine life without their child, etc., etc.  One lady said the hardest thing about having a son with Down Syndrome is the thought that she almost killed him in the womb.

So don’t forget to pray for those mothers today!

Isaac update:  Our precious guy is loved by all, and lately trying to get up on hands and knees, clapping a lot, trying to feed himself (what a mess!) and take his clothes on and off (at the wrong times, of course, but so cute!).  He really likes books, us singing to him, and the water, and besides his neurodevelopmental program, he does a reading and swimming program.  Today the whole family went to the pool and had a great time together!

Thanks for visiting!  I will try to post at least once a month, Lord willing.  You can click on the heart in the upper left to leave a comment. :0)


Behold, children are a gift of the Lord,
The fruit of the womb is a reward.
Like arrows in the hand of a warrior,
So are the children of one’s youth.

Psalm 127:3-4 (NASB)